Divorces happen. They are horrible especially from the perspective of the children. Yet it may be the best thing possible for the two adults who simply cannot get along. There is no blaming, there is just moving on including the “best interest of the child“? Immigrant, intersex, infertile people deserve human rights. Exactly how many other people’s human rights have to be violated AND how many laws have to be broken for them to have a child at any and all costs? If parents of intersex are ONLY thinking about the best interest of their child, is it OK for an IVF parent to ask for equal rights for his IVF children and all other IVF children? Secrecy and lies do not help anyone especially the victims of silent abuse – certainly does not bring about any change in laws and the lack of laws continues to foster an environment for people to be forced into secrecy, lies, cheating, fraud, breaking the laws for selfish, ulterior motives and not “best interest of the child”.
Despite what the conventional wisdom says, the best interest of the child is TRUTH – ask any intersex child. For decades the conventional wisdom to treat intersex children was a concealment based approach involving a big conspiracy to lie, secrecy, fraud documentation, illegal surgeries and so on. Now the UN Special Rapporteur on Torture has called for stop to these intersex surgeries, any conventional wisdom to day says TRUTH is better than decades of secrecy and lying, fraud medical records are a crime. Same applies to IVF children – TRUTH. If its trauma for intersex children, what is it for spouse and IVF children in an intersex marriage as these traumatic changes occur?
If a divorce occurs, what is the most important issue if children are involved?
If a divorce occurs, will innocent, voiceless IVF siblings be split?
If a divorce occurs, do two innocent lives deserve to be punished for crimes they did not commit?
If a divorce occurs, it is not about who is the better parent? Is it about what parent can set a better example in the child’s best interest?
If a divorce is granted between two genetic males in 2009 in Texas, it is legal? Will the child be raised to respect laws? And is it better to change the laws or break the laws?
Intersex people cannot legally marry nor can have children, will the child be raised to fight for equal rights or break the laws and silence everyone and abusing them?
Will the child be raised with values of compassion, love, respect for laws, humanity, a positive contributor to society, truth? Or will he be forced into a secret life of lies, fraud, breaking the laws, constricting freedom?
Is it a crime to provide human rights to intersex, infertile people within the four walls of your home where the laws and government itself fall short?
Will the child be raised as a man who respects women including infant baby girls who do not deserve to be abandoned?
Will the child be raised as a man who respects intersex people?
Will the child be raised as a man who respects diversity?
Will the child be raised as a man who shows love for family?
Will the child be raised as a man to step in as a primary care provider for a child while the spouse is under medical treatment for surgeries and unable to dispense duties as a “traditional, stereotype” mother.
Will the child be raised as a man to be anti-stereotype in silence and entailing abuse multiple times as an individual, a spouse, a parent and watch his innocent child be abused?
Will the child be raised with honesty and truth to ask for equal rights for IVF children and families or will the truth be hidden from him?
Will the child be raised to ask for equal rights for abandoned IVF children?
Will the child be raised to be a family caregiver if and when the need arises?
Will the child be raised to have the courage and strength to not die with faced with trauma after trauma after trauma with abuse after abuse after abuse?
Will the child be raised to have faith in the system where truth prevails and while justice may be delayed but it will not be denied?
Will the child be raised to respect laws?
To abandon a child to get another child, to abandon a sister to get her brother, to violate the most basic rights of the most vulnerable is not the pathway to good parenting. It is a crime against humanity from the perspective of the child. It is worth fighting for.