If You Are Gay and Proud, Can you be IVF and Proud?

Over the years, more gays are coming out. It used to be that “coming out of the closet” (do not like that term bu gets the point across) was an “event”, nowadays, it more of a non-event. In fact, fighting for EQUAL rights for gays is still an “event”. One can be certain that in a few years, once EQUAL rights for gays have been had, even the “event” of today will become more like non-events, suppose something like interracial marriages of today. Slowly we moved from different “time periods” of the struggles of being gay from being secretive to coming out to asking for EQUAL rights to feeling proud and in the near future, HAVING EQUAL rights. In the same vein, can IVF parents feel PROUD and be honest? Can IVF children feel PROUD with the truth? How can secrecy and lying help?

Social injustice is a terrible thing and has shown itself in differing ways from slavery to women suffrage to right to vote to civil rights to apartheid to freedom from colonialism to the ongoing struggles of the LGBTI movement. Can we have EQUAL rights for IVF families in parallel or they can only be asked AFTER equal rights for gays has been had? There are so many similarities between the gay rights movement and IVF movement. One of the big similarity is gays may also be IVF parents and therefore are ALSO affected by the IVF rights movement. If a gay father can be honest and truthful with his child, can an IVF parent ALSO be truthful to his IVF child? or should they be forced to LIE? What is in the best interest of the child – truth or lies?

Looking for an Erin Brockowich or “Pam Landy” from the movie “The Bourne Ultimatum”. Anyone willing to give it ALL to uncover the TRUTH and provide relief to the VICTIMS?

IVF and PROUD

So is it OK for an IVF parents to ask for EQUAL rights? In a democracy, a minority (like IVF families) can only get EQUAL rights with help of the majority because the votes count. How can you have help and support from the majority without education and awareness of IVF families’ issues? Since most people are not IVF families, how do they know the LEGAL struggles and issues that IVF families face? Is it OK to be IVF and be proud?

History repeats itself. Initially when gays started coming out, there was a section of the society who claimed it can be cured and some may still believe that. It may have been classified as a “medical condition” to be cured by “medicine”. Oppression, silencing their voices, other abuses followed. After years, just like water, truth found a way out. Then what was the point of all those years of struggle? Today IVF parents are silenced, abused, oppressed. Innocent, voiceless IVF children are being victimized. When will they get justice?

I Have A Dream…

I have a dream that someday IVF children and families will have EQUAL rights and NOT be a slave or hostage to infertility. Infertility is very traumatic, why continue the burden onto innocent, voiceless IVF children after they are born due to unequal laws?  

I have a dream that someday a child’s rights is NOT based on their parent’s gender.

I have a dream that someday what will matter MOST is the love for the child as a parent and NOT a parent’s gender. 

I have a dream that someday IVF parents are able to say the TRUTH to their IVF children without any stigma or REQUIRING a court order to say the TRUTH.

I have a dream that someday IVF families will be allowed to CELEBRATE IVF with their IVF children instead of SUPPRESSING the FACTS and LYING and CENSORSHIP.

I have a dream that someday the ONLY thing that matters is TRUTH.

Do gays need to seek permission when announcing them being gay and asking for EQUAL gay rights? Then why a different set of rules for IVF parents and spousal caregivers of intersex?

If its OK to be the world’s first IVF child or world’s first IVF parent or world’s first gay IVF father, is it OK to feel proud as an IVF parent to give the world its FIRST IVF child in an intersex marriage? It transcends the social justice on multiple levels and shows social acceptance on multiple levels of an intersex individual. Is it OK to feel proud as a spouse caregiver of intersex? One becomes a spouse caregiver when the intersex person has the controversial intersex surgery DURING a marriage. If the UN Special Rapporteur on Torture calls for a STOP to such surgeries without consent, is their any torture and/or trauma on an unsuspecting spouse of intersex when its performed DURING a marriage? Does the forced silence and secrecy further VICTIMIZE the spouse? How does secrecy and lying help? Is forcing silence upon someone same as abuse?

Ironically, the world’s second IVF child and India’s first IVF child was delivered just 67 days after the world’s FIRST IVF child in 1978. Dr. Mukherjee, the pioneering Indian IVF doctor received humiliation and horror instead of  acceptance for his novel research. Incidentally, his innovative techniques went on to become most popular and copied. However, he committed suicide without any recognition and was forced to live in secrecy and lies. While, Dr. Robert Edwards, the first IVF doctor in England went on to receive a Nobel Prize for his pioneering work in IVF. What a difference TRUTH and HONESTY makes. How does secrecy and lies help anyone?

US is a forebearer of human rights and child rights. Will its system help the minority within the minority? Will it move forward with TRUTH and FACTS or Secrecy and Lies? History will be the TRUE TEST. Lies cannot be held forever. Truth prevails.