I Wish I Were A Woman…

I Wish I were a woman for the sake of my IVF children. I am perfectly happy with my masculinity and for the man I am. However, the BIGGEST blow came when MY GENDER was used as a WEAPON to SPLIT my innocent IVF children despite being the primary care provider. I wish I were a WOMAN for their sake so the innocent children could grow up together. Being raised to respect all, being raised for everyone to have EQUAL rights, if not by law then at least by your actions, being raised to respect diversity, I have learnt that LAWS are unequal and JUSTICE is not based on TRUTH and FACTS and PREVAILING LAWS. While my idealism has been broken through a VERY HARD LESSON, why are children being punished for my stupidity? I feel close to a group of people but in a very different way. The “single mothers” of the baby scoop era whose innocent biological children were taken away because their only fault was being born to a single mother in a primitive time when that was “socially unacceptable”. I cannot compare to what they felt as mothers but as an IVF father in 2013, I can empathize with “social norms” being used to SPLIT biological families rather than facts assessing love for the child.

Lawyers, legal experts, surrogacy experts, immigration experts will become Monday morning quarterbacks and tell me well you should have checked the laws before. You should have got a legal contract requiring the spouse to come to India after an IVF child birth to satisfy US immigration requirements so that both siblings can grow up together. These are all great legal thoughts but they FAIL to recognize that having children through IVF is a issue of the heart. Unless you love children, one does not go for IVF and that too internationally. Is it wrong to think from the HEART? I know the answer to that, YES it is.

Message to the Powers to Be

COURTS, JUSTICE, LAW demands to follow the laws. Answer a question : IVF children have been born with NO LEGAL MOTHER, now what? should we give LEGAL RIGHTS to such IVF children? What is the NATURAL JUSTICE?

And yes, please FOLLOW THE PREVAILING LAWS for which due process has to be allowed, a case has to be heard in the court of law with ALL the FACTS free of intimidation and threats. If you feel a mockery was made of the legal system and the justice system, please bring to justice the perpetrators. Without DUE PROCESS, how can there be justice for innocent IVF children? Without knowing ALL the FACTS, how can there be justice?

After knowing all the FACTS, if you must, that SPLITTING the innocent siblings is JUSTICE then thats fine BUT at least give them ONE OPPORTUNITY to seek justice. They are far too young and innocent to demand their own child rights and human rights. Is this what happens to IVF children born with NO LEGAL MOTHER? No rights of their own?

If gay marriage is legalized, if gay divorce occurs, will children of the gay couple be SPLIT?