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Need To Separate Fact from Fiction, Need to Separate Wishful Thinking from Facts

  • A 1 year, 364 days old infant does not need a ticket on the plane but a 2 year old does. It’s the law.
  • truth-shakeThe minimum age is 7 days old for any infant to travel on a plane, an important criterion for an IVF child born to international parents wanting to go back home. Emotions don’t count but laws do.
  • Any infant under 6 months travelling on a plane needs 1 adult with them – particularly important if twins are born to a parent who is travelling alone. More relevant for an international IVF parent who is trying to go home with IVF twins or triplets – higher frequency than natural births. Emotions don’t count, it’s the law.
  • Immigration law requires a biological link between parent and child – emotions don’t count, it’s the law.
  • Immigrant fathers cannot bring their IVF child to US-  emotions don’t count, it’s the law.
  • Alienated parents love their child equally, more importantly, the child loves the parent equally but the best interest of the child does not count.
  • Baby scoop era was detrimental and served no real purpose, existence of single mothers and truth and reconciliation commissions have proved it.
  • The plight of Scottsboro boys is wrong, their pardons prove it. The case spawned new laws for due process and inclusion of African Americans on jury prove their innocence. When will due process and immigrant, IVF jury be allowed for immigrant IVF parents?
  • When I see an abandoned IVF daughter, I see the criminal who did this.
  • When I see an abandoned IVF daughter in legal limbo, I see the criminal who did this.
  • When I see an IVF daughter try to move forward in life but has no legal identity, I see the criminal who did this.
  • When I see an IVF child in legal limbo, I see the criminal who abused before.
  • When I see an IVF infant being starved for food, I see the criminal lying and abusing the child.
  • If breastfeeding by males is so common, why don’t mothers ask the fathers of their newborns to breastfeed?
  • Regardless whether it’s a male or female trying to breastfeed an infant, when there is no milk, is it abuse if you make the infant cry endlessly out of hunger? What else is food for an infant other than milk?
  • Having been diagnosed with interex/DSD condition is very traumatic, being forced to live a life of secrecy and lies, breaking laws, why repeat that on innocent IVF children who are no less dealt with their own secrecy, stigma, lies, breaking laws to deal with?
  • While every human deserves a child, while every parent wishes to breastfeed their child, we still have to deal with science.

There is truth in acceptance and abuse in lies on oneself and others whom you claim to love the most.

I Am ____

I am Scottsboro boysI am

I am Baby Scoop Era

I am IVF

I am immigrant

I am DSD family

I am LGBTI family

I am invisible

I am Rosa Parks

I am Susan B Anthony

I am Erin Brockovich

I am Edie Windsor

I am Tony Briffa

I am civil rights

I am reproductive rights

I am immigrant rights

I am family rights

I am IVF child

I am thankful for the compassionate donors and surrogates without whom could not have had lovely IVF children

I am caregiver

I am brother

I am sister

I am child

I am father

I am mother

I am primary care provider

I am infertile or dysfertile

I am human

I am no more lying

I am truth

This case is about all these people and only truth can get us a solution. Secrecy and lies punishes innocents and continued lies and secrecy to hid one lie further aggravates the situation failing to provide a solution. There are others who matter and who are human beings too. I am one of them to confront truth before its too late and not someone who is DSD, immigrant, infertile and enjoys an IVF child while claiming the child is natural born.

Relentless secrecy, lies, fraud, abuse, crimes, breaking the laws can help one achieve access to an immigrant, non-biological child but what is the greater good? Can it change facts?

This was not a crime of greed, this was not a crime of vengeance, but it was an act of selfishness, a crime of selfishness” – said Judge P. Kevin Castel of Federal District Court.

  1. While they can enjoy the IVF child, what does the IVF child want and need? If there is compassion for DSD, should there also be compassion for IVF child?
  2. While they can enjoy the IVF child, they still cannot change the fact that their actions are directly responsible for placing innocent IVF children in legal limbo and splitting the IVF siblings and two innocent childhoods have been robbed.
  3. While they can enjoy the IVF child, they still cannot change the fact that several DSD people cannot immigrate based on marriage because they dont have marriage rights and consequently no DSD family rights.
  4. While they can enjoy the IVF child, they still cannot change the fact that several infertile people cannot bring their non-biological IVF child to the US because of lack of immigration laws.
  5. While they can enjoy the IVF child, they still cannot change the fact that it is their lies and secrecy which has caused the innocent IVF children to be placed in legal limbo.
  6. While they can enjoy the IVF child, they still cannot change the fact that thousands of DSD people are born every year with the same natural condition and living without equal rights. Secrecy and lies will not help them achieve equal rights, truth, education, and awareness will.
  7. While they can enjoy the IVF child, they still cannot change the fact that the IVF child has a very loving parent, siblings, grandparents, and others who love him dearly but are denied his rights and their rights.
  8. While they can enjoy the IVF child, they still cannot change the fact about the compassion of egg donor and surrogate women and instead of celebrating their contribution, why lie to pass of the IVF child as a natural born child. Will the love for the child become any less by saying the truth? Why forbid others to say the truth?
  9. While they can enjoy the IVF child, they still cannot change the fact that there is a lack of laws for IVF children and families. The lack of laws is like placing a “staircase” in front of a wheelchair bound person. Would they have any experience about lack of “rights” as a DSD, immigrant, infertile person? And secrecy and lies is the right solution?
  10. While they can continue to lie, defame, violate human beings, they still cannot change the fact that this is about a DSD family, IVF parent, binational immigrant filled with noble intentions, love and compassion. Have they tried that lately –  Compassion and Truth? Despite the denial of DSD, infertility, we will always be canaries in the coal mine. Despite the secrecy and lies, we have been to DSD, IVF, Immigration and Beyond in 2000s.

This is about someone who is a relentless criminal and will abuse, violate, lie, fraud anyone including innocent children. Do the children have rights? Do other DSD people have rights? Do IVF parents have rights? Do caregiver have rights? Do immigrants have rights?

Why IVF Children Need Rights as Individuals?

National Coming Out Day is October 11. I am an IVF father and I am a proud IVF father of my IVF children and I am coming out. Nazi Intersex IVF HistoryIf a gay father can tell his child the truth, why can’t an IVF father tell the truth to his IVF child? United Nation (UN) declared October 11 is International Girl Child Day. Is IVF girl child an equal? Is it offensive to withhold the truth from innocent IVF children and deny them their rights? Is this “freedom”? The lack of laws for IVF children is why as an IVF parent I am coming out in support of “rights of IVF chidlren”. Before we discuss the rights of an IVF father, it is important to understand the current legal landscape for IVF children based on gender and biology of parent. Like with any parent-child relationship, there is an emotional component and a legal component. The emotional component is the same in an IVF parent-child relationship, however the legal component is widely different and is based on gender and biology with the parent. The lack of laws for IVF children and families is why we need to discuss the “rights of an IVF father”. More importantly, the IVF children of an IVF father are discriminated against and are the ones being punished for crimes they did not commit. The intent is clearly to protect the best interest of the IVF child and some very sensitive topics may be discussed which are true and factual in the spirit of getting equal rights for IVF children and families. Let’s get on the right side of history. If we can show compassion to an intersex adult despite breaking multiple laws, why can’t we show compassion to innocent IVF children? We are looking for a way out for victims, not a hand out to this 21st century issue.

Who is an IVF father?

An IVF father is a parent who loves his children and children who love their father. As per US Government’s own research, it shows the positive influence and aspects in children with a father. For the purposes of this discussion, the analogous of an IVF father is an IVF mother who used her egg but used a surrogate to have a child. Women who are undergoing fertility treatments to birth their own child are not part of this discussion. The focus of this discussion is strictly from a legal perspective and the lack of laws which is hurting the IVF children more than the parents. An IVF father can be someone who is a gay father or a single father or if you are an intersex spouse. Should IVF fathers in a heterosexual relationship be considered? Do IVF fathers love their IVF children any less? Does infertility affect men any differently especially some IVF fathers who have been through the same roller coaster ride of IVF emotionally, financially, socially, spiritually, and so on?  And when the IVF child is born and the IVF parent finds out that his IVF child is discriminated against because of his gender, how is that supposed to make a parent feel? After the years of anxiety, lost careers, sleepless nights, trauma, other losses, how is an IVF parent supposed to “equate” to his IVF children that they are somehow less because of his gender?  Currently the IVF laws are based on biology and gender. Why not have IVF laws in the  best interest of the IVF children?  What is so wrong about that? or should we rob from a child like taking icecream from a little child?  If an IVF father uses a compassionate surrogate to have a child (and a compassionate egg donor) Vs an IVF mother uses a compassionate surrogate to have a child (and a compassionate sperm donor) Vs an IVF mother uses both a compassionate egg donor and sperm donor and uses her own womb, why are the laws different for the same IVF child? What crime has the child committed to be treated differently based on a parent’s gender and biology? Because infertility and IVF are dealt with secrecy, stigma and lies there is not open discussion and stifles information sharing and only now scientific studies are emerging based on facts. A recent study claims that because the way the IVF children are born with the fertility treatments, hormones, and other things, IVF children are a third more likely to develop cancer or are at 90% risk of brain cancer and 65% risk of leukemia. God forbid but if an IVF child who has been taken away from his biological family needs a bone marrow transplant tomorrow, will the “fraud birth documents” help save is life or w will truth save his life? The biological parent is more than happy to give an organ if it saves his IVF son’s life but first the truth has to be accepted. The reality is IVF children have certain unique needs because of the nature of their birth as opposed to natural born children including adopted children. What are the rights of the IVF child?

Stateless IVF Children

What if the samples are accidentally swapped in the IVF clinic and there is a DNA mismatch. Is the love for the IVF child any less from the commissioning parent? More importantly, what are the rights of the IVF child? What if the “paying adults” (commissioning parents) decide to divorce during an IVF pregnancy, what are the rights of the IVF child? As gender roles are changing, as society is becoming more accepting of gay fathers, single fathers, or fathers who are primary care providers in a traditional marriage, have the laws caught up? More importantly, have the IVF laws and immigration laws caught up with the technology in the best interest of the IVF children? Not to long ago during the baby scoop era, children were forcibly given up for adoption to well-meaning parents and taken away from their biological mothers because their only fault was to be born to “single mothers” who were not “socially acceptable” at the time. Again the innocent children were discriminated due to the circumstances of the parent. A lot of the adoptive parents may be unknowing of the facts and may have raised the child lovingly, but what is right for the child? Why are adopted children looking for their birth parents now? Today it would be unthinkable to take a child away from a biological mother only based on the fact that she is “single”. Is history repeating itself? Truth is the only salvation and children are very smart and figure it out. Especially IVF children because they have a weird sixth sense about things. The hope is that by the time these stateless IVF children grow up into adults, we will have made a dent in bringing equal rights for IVF children and families, it is something very much they can appreciate unless they have been lied to about their IVF birth. Ironically by lying to IVF children, instead of using an opportunity for learning, we are teaching them the worst of humanity which is lying, crimes and abuse in silence. The humanity is that through compassion of fellow human beings, an IVF child is born – a gift to be cherished and celebrated, not hidden and persecuted. 

Because What’s Right is Right and What’s Wrong is Wrong

Should we lie to our children or should we teach them to lie or are children smart and learn from our lying? Therise-fall conventional wisdom is one should not lie to children, say the truth but in an age appropriate manner and most certainly without breaking any laws. However, do all parents adhere to this? By lying to children we are creating a whole new generation of WRONG.

1) Trauma or No Trauma?

An intersex person is born this way naturally but yet the secrecy and lying make it some “unnormal” condition. One intersex person may claim their situation is very traumatic, another may take offense to the word, “trauma” and would rather see it as just is. What about someone who has to DEAL with all the issues of intersex in secrecy and lying while breaking the laws? If its NOT TRAUMATIC, then what would be the need to create false and fraudulent medical records?

Some people may try to play a spin on it and claim, well that’s just the way we have dealt with the condition for decades – with secrecy, lying and fraud medical records. Right, and ask the intersex person who was the victim how they feel about it? Just because we have been committing crimes as an institution for decades, it still remains a CRIME. Even if the “institution” claims it is not a crime, how does robbing from a child using lies make it “right”? In a first of its kind case, a court in the US recently admitted a case that claims the intersex surgery on innocent children is unconstitutional. Lying to children, lying to parents, is WRONG. Times are changing…is it WRONG to lie to spouses of intersex also?

2) Lessons learnt – TRUTH or LIES?

The lesson learnt is CLEAR. Lying to children in WRONG. Parents of intersex children who were either lied to or were forced to lie to their intersex children is also WRONG. Empowering with TRUTH is the right answer. The right answer is to get equal rights for intersex and discuss the issues that face intersex families and get laws. As canaries in the coal mine who miraculously survived, lying to children does not help the child. When the child grows up into an adult, they may NOT like their parents who lied to them. Worse, they may also LIE and hurt others. It’s a vicious circle.

Should we LIE to IVF children? Should an IVF parent be forced to LIE to his IVF child? The society, the doctors, the laws all want the IVF parent to LIE to his IVF son. Should these LIES be used against the innocent, voiceless IVF child to separate him from his siblings and family? And how exactly will that HELP the innocent, voiceless IVF child? The right answer is to discuss the issues of international IVF children and families and get laws. It maybe a lifelong fight but its the right fight.

3) The Right Fight for a Parent

Just like an intersex person will always have close ties to intersex issues, IVF children and families will always have close ties to IVF issues. We are BORN THIS WAY. What’s right is right and what’s wrong is wrong. Understanding and sympathizing with desperation of an intersex person is one thing but to REPEAT the secrecy and lies with a whole new class of children and creating new victims due to secrecy and lying is different.

An intersex parent may have been lied to or were taught to lie to their intersex child. How has that helped? Why REPEAT the same with another class of minority – IVF children and parents? How will that help? How do you get justice and relief as victims using secrecy? For a parent, it is one thing to be slapped BUT to have your innocent child SLAPPED is more than a school yard fight. Because this SLAP is about dignity and respect for basic human rights and NOT treat innocent, voiceless IVF children like “property”. Its a SLAP that NO other IVF child or parent should have to endure or experience. Having experienced intersex, IVF, immigration, lies, breaking laws, secrecy and beyond, it is time to STOP and place children FIRST.

A Canadian couple had opted for IVF in India but due to an accident at the IVF clinic in India, the sample got swapped and thus there was a DNA mismatch. As per prevailing immigration laws, the IVF child could NOT immigrate to Canada without a “biological link”. The non-biological IVF parents gave up everything in Canada and moved to India for 6 years and fought for 6 years to have the IVF child legally taken to Canada. It is NOT about the biology, it is about LOVE and TRUTH and while they had 6 horrific years they never planned or imagined, their prayers were answered because they spoke the TRUTH. In the end, what’s right is right and what’s wrong is wrong.

In another IVF case in India, the non-biological parent from the US never came to India on an IVF child’s birth and thus abandoning her. The IVF child is still languishing in LEGAL LIMBO and STATELESS after 4 years of innocent life. Why bother commissioning IVF if this is the horror to level on an innocent, voiceless child? Where was the non-biological US parent?

I Will Fight till I’m Dead

“I will fight till I’m Dead”, said Jason Patric who fathered a child through IVF. It’s the bond that people create. I never give up till deathLOVE MY SON and there is NOT a MOMENT I do not think about him or miss him.

If Mr. Patric is a “sperm donor” even though he has a biological link to the child but has NO rights, what about a person who has NO biological link with an IVF child, no sperm, no egg, no womb, can they have a parent-child relationship with an IVF child? Can they keep the IVF child away from a biological parent and siblings and family against his wishes?

Even though physically there is always a mother and father for a child, legally in this case the LAW says there is “NO LEGAL FATHER” and denied parental rights. If an absence of an IVF contract deems no parental rights for a father, is the same true for a mother? What if an IVF child exists with “NO LEGAL MOTHER”? What are the rights of the innocent, voiceless IVF child? In this case the father has a biological link to the IVF child. It is one thing to LIE under oath and cheat adults and the court and use FALSE MEDICAL RECORDS. But it is totally different to DENY rights to innocent, voiceless IVF children using to the same LIES. The innocent children may be voiceless but have RIGHTS and have TRUTH on their side – its just a matter of time. When health professionals make false medical claims, it has reverberating effects on innocents including not getting justice they deserve.

If you can find something that you’re really passionate about, whether you’re a man or a woman comes a lot less into play. Passion is a gender-neutralizing force.” – said Ms. Marissa Mayer. As an IVF father, I am completely passionate about IVF, however, my gender of MALE was used against me and my IVF children to SPLIT them. We are still waiting for a gender-neutralizing force in parenting rights at home.

The fundamental issue here is that like any other technology, there is always a few bad apples who misuse technology. Do we have an appropriate legal framework to both harness this wonderful IVF technology AND provide proper safeguards in the best interest of the IVF child and all others involved in an IVF procedure? Socially, people may want to believe that its the “LOVE” that counts and NOT the “biological link”. However, the LAWS do NOT see it that way. Prevailing laws (or rather lack thereof) place more responsibility and accountability on “biological parents” than non-biological parents when it comes to IVF children.

While there is lot of talk about “intended parents” in IVF terminology (where one intended parent may have NO biological link with IVF child), should we ALSO be discussing “intended residence” of the IVF child in case of international IVF? This is important in international IVF because again IMMIGRATION LAWS work based on “biological link” and not the social structure. This separates IVF children away from their biological families. Has anyone asked what does the IVF child want? Are IVF children human beings?

Are we starting a NEW ERA of baby scoop era now for IVF children by taking them away from their biological families? It’s IRONIC because single motherhood has its roots in the baby scoop era. The HOPE is that most women who have learnt the facts of this case have sided with Mr. Patric because it shows he was always willing to SHARE and is a GOOD PARENT and is not a deadbeat father. If a parent truly loves their child more than themselves, they will allow the child to have both parents.  Of course the SON, also a MALE, will be wondering where his father is while growing up and when he finds out that his father fought till his death to be a part of his life to SHARE, what will his feelings be for his father, also a MALE? What will his feelings be when HE becomes a father?

Equal rights for IVF children and families is a fight till I am dead or someone plans to have me killed.

Robbing From a Child

What possible point can an adult be wanting to prove by robbing from a child? What possible virtue could an rob children of tomorrowadult want to instill in a child by showing them how to rob from an innocent child? What possible lesson an adult may want to show an innocent child by robbing them of a sibling, a parent, a biological family?

“This was not a crime of greed, this was not a crime of vengeance, but it was an act of selfishness, a crime of selfishness” – Judge P. Kevin Castel in the case of Carlina White

Carlina White was kidnapped when she was merely a few days old and SEPARATED from her biological family. Decades later, she figured out on her own the truth and facts. She outed the very caretaker who had raised her for ALL these years despite the brainwashing and alienation against her BIOLOGICAL FAMILY. Today as per news reports, she is removed both from her biological family AND the woman who raised her. Is this the future of separated IVF children or do we have time to SAVE them?

During the baby scoop era, BIOLOGICAL children were SEPARATED from their mothers because their only fault was being born to “single mothers”. Whether the adoptive parents knew the truth or not, today the same children and the “single mothers” are getting apologies from the government for its actions. However, they are UNABLE to restore the LOST childhoods and siblings and the love of a biological parent. Why rob from a child?

Sean Goldman in Brazil was reunited with his biological father in the US in 2009 after 5 years because as US Secretary of State Hillary Clinton said at the time, “A child belongs with his [biological] family”. Was Sean being abused, or not being given food, clothes, toys, education, nurture for his growth and development by his biological grandparents raising him? Its the “right thing” to do, why rob from a child?

In an immigrant, international IVF case, the RESULT is the same. An innocent IVF child SEPARATED from his only known BIOLOGICAL FAMILY and his PRIMARY CARE PROVIDER. Except he is too young to have a voice that can be heard, so its OK to ROB him of his rights. In 2009, immigrant gay rights DID NOT EXIST in the US. However, the intention of the US government was NEVER to separate families as they started allowing gay families to immigrate to the US in 2013. A spouse of intersex is NOT gay but from a legal perspective, the same laws (or lack thereof) are applicable. Only someone with intimate knowledge of the immigration laws for IVF children of US immigrant father (or rather lack thereof) could have used the loophole in the law in 2009 for their personal benefit. The RESULT is STATELESS IVF children. People who are STATELESS do not have EQUAL rights. For example, the right to get a passport and travel freely in the world to meet a SIBLING. Why rob from a child? The not being able to play catch with him or read him the night time stories or helping him with his school projects and the intermittent hugs and kisses is what I miss the most – active participation in your child’s life.

Beyond Traditional Abuse

It will take a few years or even decades for the case facts to sink in and to connect the dots. But even over time, the FACTS will remain the same and intact. This is NOT about intersex family rights or IVF rights OR gay rights or caregiver rights or immigration rights. This is about someone knowingly and deliberately breaking the laws and preying on innocent, unsuspecting victims. People with CAIS will continue to be born as its naturally occurring, they will continue to be born with male testes even though someone with CAIS may have a medical record from a doctor stating they had “ovaries”. Just like that is a LIE and in fact, lying on medical records is a crime, it only goes to show how widespread the CONSPIRACY is. When highly educated and learned people begin to commit crimes, is there any hope, are there other inadvertent VICTIMS? Is teaching children to lie and live in secret the FUTURE strategy of dealing with CAIS and intersex? Why rob from a child?

Effects of a FALSE medical record

The issue is NOT whether a genetic male should be allowed to breastfeed, the question is after how many cries of a hungry infant is it ABUSE due to LACK of milk when a genetic male attempts to breastfeed? Just like the medical record stating “ovaries” in a CAIS patient is FALSE, breastfeeding by a genetic male due to lack of milk is FALSE. It may be wishful thinking but still FALSE and underscores the ABUSE upon the infant and the partner FORCED into SILENCE. It underscores the OTHER VICTIMS of the secrecy and lies. Why rob from a child? To put into perspective, how many mothers asked the father of their infant to breastfeed? Is it a natural instinct?

Similarly, if a patient is under severe trauma and is under ongoing medical treatment, how can they be a PRIMARY CARE PROVIDER for an infant at the same time? It’s wishful thinking BUT still FALSE. Why rob from a child?

Just like CAIS people do not have ovaries even though a medical record may state otherwise, an IVF child does not become a natural born child even though a document may state so. Lies remain lies and TRUTH remains TRUTH. How many LIES to hide one LIE? Truth is easier. Rather than teaching children to LIE and live in secrecy and abusing and victimizing others, it is BETTER to teach them the truth and celebrate who they are, how they are. As a parent, thats what I want for my IVF children, celebrate the TRUTH and celebrate the HUMANITY of all responsible for bringing them into this world and raising them.

If you are a great parent, why would you ABANDON an IVF child after placing an order WITH NO respect for the IVF child’s rights or basic human dignity. IVF creates unique situations. An order can be placed for an IVF child as long as you have MONEY. No egg, no womb, no sperm REQUIRED, just MONEY. Then if you change your mind during the IVF pregnancy, WHAT are the RIGHTS of the IVF child, the RIGHTS of the SURROGATE, the rights of left-behind parent? Do they have RIGHTS TO move forward in LIFE as they begin to assemble a life from the broken pieces and STATELESSNESS and LEGAL LIMBO? Did STATELESS refugees from Syria, Afghanistan, Iraq, Libya, Sudan, Rwanda, South America, Europe, etc. have RIGHTS to MOVE forward if they survived? Why rob from a child?

Just like the medical community and parents of intersex have taught their intersex children to LIE and live in secrecy, it is a FAILED approach. Teaching IVF children they are NOT IVF and somehow making “IVF” a taboo subject is WRONG. Being who they are and being PROUD of who they are is the right approach. Especially in cases of IVF children like Vedant and Medhavi, so many people CAME TOGETHER to bring them into this world and raise them, it is a PROUD moment to celebrate the contributions of others and NOT HIDE it. It would be DISRESPECTING the humanity around us. Why ROB from a child? What is the “greatness” in trying to inculcate children by teaching them to rob from a child?

I Wish I Were A Woman…

I Wish I were a woman for the sake of my IVF children. I am perfectly happy with my masculinity and for the True Loveman I am. However, the BIGGEST blow came when MY GENDER was used as a WEAPON to SPLIT my innocent IVF children despite being the primary care provider. I wish I were a WOMAN for their sake so the innocent children could grow up together. Being raised to respect all, being raised for everyone to have EQUAL rights, if not by law then at least by your actions, being raised to respect diversity, I have learnt that LAWS are unequal and JUSTICE is not based on TRUTH and FACTS and PREVAILING LAWS. While my idealism has been broken through a VERY HARD LESSON, why are children being punished for my stupidity? I feel close to a group of people but in a very different way. The “single mothers” of the baby scoop era whose innocent biological children were taken away because their only fault was being born to a single mother in a primitive time when that was “socially unacceptable”. I cannot compare to what they felt as mothers but as an IVF father in 2013, I can empathize with “social norms” being used to SPLIT biological families rather than facts assessing love for the child.

Lawyers, legal experts, surrogacy experts, immigration experts will become Monday morning quarterbacks and tell me well you should have checked the laws before. You should have got a legal contract requiring the spouse to come to India after an IVF child birth to satisfy US immigration requirements so that both siblings can grow up together. These are all great legal thoughts but they FAIL to recognize that having children through IVF is a issue of the heart. Unless you love children, one does not go for IVF and that too internationally. Is it wrong to think from the HEART? I know the answer to that, YES it is.

Message to the Powers to Be

COURTS, JUSTICE, LAW demands to follow the laws. Answer a question : IVF children have been born with NO LEGAL MOTHER, now what? should we give LEGAL RIGHTS to such IVF children? What is the NATURAL JUSTICE?

And yes, please FOLLOW THE PREVAILING LAWS for which due process has to be allowed, a case has to be heard in the court of law with ALL the FACTS free of intimidation and threats. If you feel a mockery was made of the legal system and the justice system, please bring to justice the perpetrators. Without DUE PROCESS, how can there be justice for innocent IVF children? Without knowing ALL the FACTS, how can there be justice?

After knowing all the FACTS, if you must, that SPLITTING the innocent siblings is JUSTICE then thats fine BUT at least give them ONE OPPORTUNITY to seek justice. They are far too young and innocent to demand their own child rights and human rights. Is this what happens to IVF children born with NO LEGAL MOTHER? No rights of their own?

If gay marriage is legalized, if gay divorce occurs, will children of the gay couple be SPLIT?