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Coming To America for Justice for IVF Children

Little over 25 years ago, like many immigrants at the time and millions more before us over the centuries came to America – the promised land of truth, liberty and justiceBornFreeJustice-IVF It was an exciting time, on the fun side, movies like “Coming to America” was released which captured the American spirit of hard work and respect for all. On a more serious note, in 2015, it is again a very exciting time to “Coming to America” as an international IVF/Surrogacy children and family to get justice we deserve. Freedom to roam free and opportunity to be united as intended as a family. It is important to go through the process of justice because only then it can be fully understood the torture, trauma, abuse, injustice, horror of what we went through and this should NEVER occur again. If there is a country, a system not afraid of the truth, then it is America who can give us the basic human dignity and respect as human beings. It is this faith and hope in America where everyone is equal is what gives us the strength and courage to say the truth.

In the words of Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. – “A threat to justice anywhere is a threat to justice everywhere” and “Justice delayed is justice denied“. Our prayers are to let truth prevail and do what’s in the best interest of the innocent children.

On the positive side, if anyone looks at our case honestly and hollistically, more has been done for human rights where laws and governments fall short. If an intersex, immigrant, IVF parent helps by respecting human rights of people where laws and government itself fall short, who protects their rights? Or is it a crime to show compassion? Why is it the burden of innocent IVF/Surrogacy children and parent to give rights to intersex, immigrant, infertile where laws itself fall short? Isn’t that what governments and laws do? We tried and ended up splitting our world apart, it is obvious it is NOT the job of individuals. Are innocent IVF/Surrogacy children and their parents human beings too equally deserving of basic human dignity and respect?

There is no doubt that intersex marriage, immigration, legal third gender, equal rights for IVF/Surrogacy children and families will be legal someday (1,5,10,20,50 years?) which is what we have already been through in secrecy and lies but even then abandoning a child (natural born or IVF/Surrogacy born) will remain a crime. Because that’s the America I know and love. Once a child is born, regardless of their birth type, they are equal and should be deserving of justice. Ironically, good-minded people, government officials, system, etc. say things which are offensive and is a downright discrimination based on birth type but because of the “newness” don’t realize their inadvertent offensive words and/or actions. It simply shows there is a lot more work to do to educate and spread awareness and build tolerance for IVF/Surrogacy children and families. Is building families through IVF/Surrogacy a crime? Or is it so heinous that families should be forced to be split up? Or is that the laws have not caught up with technology?

America is a great land where once the social conscience is awakened, it takes action rather than persecuting the messenger. From slavery to women suffrage to civil rights to gay rights, we have great historical lessons of justice, is it time for equal rights for IVF/Surrogacy children and families? We are coming to America for justice and freedom – something alienated and stolen from innocent IVF/Surrogacy siblings. This is a dream of an IVF parent to unite his innocent children but he is also an American and Americans don’t leave one of their own behind and nor do they ever stop fighting for truth and justice. Together we move ahead.

It’s a new dawn, 2015 is a new year. Is the world ready to embrace the ground realities and the lack of laws for international IVF/Surrogacy children and families? The only way forward is ahead and together. We need honesty and inclusiveness in solving complex international IVF/Surrogacy child rights and human rights issues; secrecy, lies, circumventing laws are not healthy nor are they in the best interest of the child.

The Americans I Know

Those who deny freedom to others deserve it not for themselves.” – US President Abraham Lincoln

Men – their rights and nothing more; Women – their rights and nothing less. Failure is impossible.” – Susan B. Anthony

Alone we can do so little; together we can do so much. All the world is full of suffering. It is also full of overcoming.” – Helen Keller

The only tired I was, was tired of giving in. You must never be fearful about what you are doing when it is right.” – Rosa Parks

I have a dream that my four little children will one day live in a nation where they will not be judged by the color of their skin, but by the content of their character.” – Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.

“We can’t help everyone, but everyone can help someone.” – US President Ronald Reagan
The Americans I Know care about human beings, human rights, child rights, truth, morals, principles, rule of law. However, this is NOT the America I 

Mia-Love-the-america-i-know-is-great-ivfknow through its laws.

Does an abandoned IVF child have a right to life?

The Americans I Know would willingly die for something they love like the thousands of soldiers who have died for their country they love. However, this is NOT the America I know through its laws.

The Americans I Know would stand up for what’s right, stand up for a principle even if it means going against the tide of the time and face stiff opposition. Like Abraham Lincoln or Susan Anthony or Rosa Parks or MLK, Jr. or Edie Windsor. However, this is NOT the America I know through its laws.

The Americans I Know believe in doing the “right thing” and not just paying lip service. However, this is NOT the America I know through its laws..

The Americans I Know believe in liberty, justice and freedom for all including innocent IVF children. However, this is NOT the America I know through its laws.

The Americans I Know would cry and cringe and rally around a cry of innocent little children to be freed. However, this is NOT the America I know through its laws.

The Americans I Know would do anything to protect the rights of innocent voiceless children. However, this is NOT the America I know through its laws.

The Americans I Know would hate to create STATELESS children and place innocent children in legal limbo. However, this is NOT the America I know through its laws.

The Americans I Know would defend the rights of innocent children regardless of their birth type. However, this is NOT the America I know through its laws.

The Americans I Know would require a person be held accountable and responsible for abandoning an IVF pregnancy and look after the welfare of the abandoned IVF child. However, this is NOT the America I know through its laws.

The Americans I Know would require a person be held accountable and responsible for abandoning an IVF pregnancy and look after the welfare of the surrogate as per the terms. However, this is NOT the America I know through its laws.

The Americans I Know would treat all children equal – especially an IVF brother and sister born exactly the same way. However, this is NOT the America I know through its laws.

The Americans I Know are not proud of the “baby scoop era“.

The Americans I Know would not split up siblings.

The Americans I Know who may be gay or lesbian or intersex would respect the laws and wait for years if not decades until same-sex marriages became legal so they can get legally married and NOT break the law and “hush” up everything.

The Americans I Know who may be in a same-sex marriage would love to sponsor their spouse for immigration but would follow the laws and not break the laws.

The Americans I Know would be proud of showing compassion and love.