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Texas Board Certified Houston Family Law Attorney Becky Reitz – A Texan Girl Child Deleter

Texas Board Certified Houston Family Law Attorney Becky Reitz – A Texan Girl Child DeleterTexas Board Certified Houston Family Law Attorney Adam Morris - A Texan Girl Child Deleter

Why does Becky Reitz,  Houston Texas Board certified Family Law Attorney get to play God and delete a Texan girl child, find out more here. Some people go to Surrogacy ANY EXTREME to exploit innocent children and women from third world country for an infertile adult in USA to have a child.

Texas Board Certified Houston Family Law Attorney Becky Reitz – A Texan Girl Child Deleter

If you are the court appointed Amicus, I am a child born during a marriage, how come the Amicus did not represent me and if not, how was I afforded due process where decisions were made for me with no legal representation or consent? Find out more here about Becky Reitz,  Houston Texas Board certified Family Law Attorney, a girl child deleter

Texas Board Certified Houston Family Law Attorney Becky Reitz- A Texan Girl Child Deleter

Becky Reitz,  Houston Texas Board certified Family Law Attorney, a girl child deleter believes one can build a family by deleting a family member, a sister and a girl child, find out more here

If you have any information to the contrary and feel that they were also lied to by Niti Atre or kept in the dark which eventually led to deleting a girl child, please come forward with the truth as it can HELP save lives.

SurrogacyGate : Maybe the innocent children and siblings have their “own best interest”?

Everyone knows human cloning is banned but what if a desperate, rogue individual needing a heart transplant decides to clone themselves with the intent of ripping out the heart of the clone to save themselves. Does the clone have rights? Will a birth certificate be issued for the clone? Who will be listed as the “mother” and “father” on the birth certificate? Or will the birth certificate list two fathers OR two mothers OR a new format from the government bureaucracy will be requested to be produced within matter of weeks or months because a life is at stake? It’s NEVER happened before and the scenario breaks the laws, so how will we handle it? Will the clone be given a legal identity? Does the clone deserve justice? Or will the “powers to be” say that the clone is illegal and no laws were followed in creating the clone and thus the “clone” is out of jurisdiction and underserving of justice?

The analogy is apt for a Surrogacy child of LGBTI immigrants. Its illegal but we are here, now what? Judge us, exploit us or help us? I am a Texan child and I feel concerned that somehow it’s OK in our generation to DELETE a child. Texas with a population of 27.5 million people and an average birth rate of 400,000 children per year, there are 400, 000 reasons why any child can be DELETED like me and its vicious impact. Are you concerned as a Texan, as a human, as  parent? I thought it was wrong to MESS with children in Texas, still true? In Texas, girls have freedom to fight absurdity with absurdity like the CocksNotGlocks. Regardless of whether you agree or not, at least America allows such freedom of expression. The same freedom is NOT given to Texan Surrogacy children, why? I DREAM of the day when Surrogacy children can talk freely without being extorted blood money by adults. The 311th Harris county court judge was forced to resign at the same time when the same judge passed judicial orders which both denied my justice and created a path of blood money to be extorted from anyone speaking out for me.  Other orders of the judge were rescinded or reviewed but not mine because the fox is in the henhouse. The current fox in the hen house approach does not solve problems but rather creates new levels of exploitation in the civilized world. I have faith in the system just not as much faith in some of the rogue individuals in the system who seem to be more thirsty for money and their own personal reputation rather than thirsty for upholding the laws and values of the US Constitution like truth, liberty, and justice for ALL including Surrogacy children of LGBTI immigrants. US counts “fertility rate” as number of children born to women. Does that mean the children born to two genetic males or single fathers do NOT COUNT (which is the case here)? Clearly, the definitions need to be revised and be INCLUSIVE in 21st century but these archaic definitions have serious implications on Surrogacy children TODAY when smart adults exploit these gaps in the laws.

Get to know the facts, You Decide. Love or Hate? What do we want innocent children – the future to learn? More of the same – repressive, hypocrisy that exploits, privileged are ABOVE the laws, archaic laws of 20th century slow to change OR acceptance and compassion of ALL even if laws remain the same?

Maulik Modi’s World of Children and Siblings Niti Atre’s World of Children and Siblings
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Can Niti Atre specifically name ONE Action she has taken to UNITE us innocent siblings? I can name thousands and even millions of missed opportunities by Niti Atre to DIVIDE us. If I as a Surrogacy child of a LGBTI immigrant was denied to come to the US as per the laws unless I LIE about my documents, shouldn’t the same laws be equally applicable on other Surrogacy children of LGBTI immigrants like my biological brother AND also on intersex immigrant like Niti Atre? Has she lied to US government? Why special privilege for her as an adult but none for innocent children like me? I respectfully followed the laws, why not her? On paper, we are ALL equal in the US constitution but reality is Niti Atre and her cronies are ABOVE the LAW and roam freely with complete impunity at the cost of exploiting innocent, poor children like me and taking my freedom away.

Here is the reality of innocent children and siblings caught up in the politics of Surrogacy and infertility. Let there be no doubt, access to a legal birth certificate and passport, legal documents for a legal identity are not “family issues” but political issues just like two genetic males trying to get a marriage certificate. Any denials, postponement, ignorance is a repeat of the same legal, social, emotional, mental abuse and trauma of two genetic male adults trying to get a marriage certificate. Just like millions of people who are NOT gay but still support equal marriage rights because some may not be accepting but are still understanding and at the very least are not participatory and judgmental by denying facts of archaic and inhumane laws in someone else’s lives. Throughout history, social change and its resultant change in laws takes 2-3-4 decades to come about but that does not mean one stops dreaming about the days when one can be equal. The challenge of our status quo as Surrogacy children and siblings is whether this separation and s speaking up about it will invite more and continued persecution and exploitation or help and understanding? We can dream that one day we will be united or is it wrong to dream? In this interim period (currently), the rich, powerful, privileged can use their power to either EXPLOIT us or HELP us, adults can choose to respect Surrogacy children and our issues OR disrespect us and delete us, YOU decide what you want. It is easy for the French King to say give them cake if they can’t afford bread akin to mocking a Surrogacy child by an adult in Texas claiming they don’t have a passport, why does a Surrogacy girl child in India need a passport to come meet their Surrogacy brother in USA? If you can’t accept Surrogacy children and our legal issues, that’s OK at least don’t exploit us! Live and let live.

All Niti Atre has to do is RESPECT Surrogacy children and unite innocent siblings.  Niti Atre placed an “ORDER” and gave consent for an IVF/Surrogacy child in India, also a sibling of the child she claims to love, so she should uphold her responsibility and accountability if not towards herself as an adult but at least towards Surrogacy children and siblings. Niti Atre cannot legally get a passport for my Surrogacy brother despite having a Texas court order because she holds fradulent documents and the Texas court blatantly allowed her lies which violates laws in other instances. Like the SAME LIES were not allowed for me by the US government or for other surrogacy children when issuing legal documents like birth certificate and passport. It is one thing for Niti Atre to want to lie, fraud and break laws, it is another for others wanting to support her lies, fraud and break the laws, why is that an issue for us innocent biological siblings to be DIVIDED and not get legal documents as per laws?

Anyone who wants to take a stand should do so from the perspective of “Surrogacy children” and our issues and NOT fall into the trap of using one child against another which is what Niti Atre has done. If you say something in favor of one Surrogacy child, you may end up offending or abusing or exploiting another Surrogacy child which is what Niti Atre is doing.  But if you collectively look at the “issues of Surrogacy children”, you will realize the lack of laws issues is one thing but exploiting the gaps in the laws against innocent, voiceless children is wrong at many levels starting with our humanity.

For example, a well-educated, smart, powerful, privileged individual may claim that families are based on “genetic link” and therefore the loving, compassionate American family who gave me refuge with “NO genetic link” is not my family. Given such specific definition of family by an officer of the court, a Board certified Family Law Attorney which cannot be disputed without persecution, pray do tell, how can Niti Atre, their client, who has admitted to being born infertile nd cannot provide a “genetic link” as per her own legal counsel’s definition in court of law ever have a child of the “family”? And from the perspective of the child, my biological brother, why should he be DENIED access to his “biological family”, like me and my family. This is what happens when you pitch one sibling against another – you offend and abuse one while falsely claiming to “help the other”. Surrogacy is ALL politics and our case clearly shows that. For us Surrogacy children and FAMILIES, most of us already know beforehand that only one of the parent will have a “genetic link” but still do it. We are OK with it, are others, especially the “thekedars” of laws? People who do not understand multi-culturalism or are intolerant towards Surrogacy children of LGBTI immigrants should not PRETEND to know our legal issues because you don’t. Whatever legal, social, moral, ethical, financial, mental, emotional issues two genetic males have to undergo to get a “marriage certificate” – still banned in most parts of the world, it’s the same legal, social, moral, ethical, financial, mental, emotional issues one has to undergo to get a “birth certificate” for a Surrogacy child of LGBTI immigrants. Its all that + 1 because it’s for a another person, an innocent voiceless child meaning others can prevent you from speaking up and even penalize you for it, also known as blood money. Will the women at home, mother, wife, daughter accept the blood money of another “girl child”?

If Niti Atre is teaching truth, respect and compassion to my brother then why am I not included, his own biological sister and “family”? Ariel Castro was a good parent but exploited others daughters and eventually the truth did come out. Niti Atre and her cronies continue to exploit me and walk freely with complete impunity, a freedom she stole from me and now is stealing from my brother.

Does torture have to be only physical? Or are there other forms of torture like mental, emotional, psychological? Is the same true for abuse as defined by laws?

 

 

 

Machiavellian Fertility Wars – What is the Best Interest of the Child?

Fertility Wars – Not too long ago, in a world very close, fertility wars had erupted because sometimes people want a child at any and all costs. But FertilityWarsthe force is Strong in the “little girl” Medhavi born via IVF/Surrogacy left stateless in “IVF prison” from the fertility wars is growing up happily. We are thankful and with help of the STATE, she is able to be united with her brother despite the First Order, after all there is love and compassion in our civilized world where truth has a chance. But not for long. As the Force awakens, time will tell if the innocence and love of a little sister will overcome the dark side of Machiavellian fertility wars? Will this #BrownGirl, “Princess Leia” be united with her brother “Luke Skywalker” split at birth? Stay tuned. It is inevitable the siblings will meet either now or as adults, why barricade them from building a bond and memories? Let us unite them expeditiously and “begin to make things right”. Taking the “high road” has turned disastrous for innocent children and that changes everything where truth is the only way out.

Basic Human Dignity And Respect of a Child

Nowadays they say a girl can be anything, can she be a “little sister” as intended? These are the questions coming out of the fertility wars and for a parent, a child is a child and for siblings, a sibling is sibling, regardless of how laws see them. Do children born via IVF/Surrogacy count equally? These are the real innocent victims of fertility wars and as a parent both are equal and perhaps someday the rest of the world will also see them at least as human beings if NOT equal. No one is spared in fertility wars, not even an innocent child. My lovely daughter was conceived after several failed IVF attempts. Then she was NOT declared as a “child” when divorce was filed in the US. Then the other consenting side NEVER came to India at her birth to fulfill the legal obligations to “legalize” the IVF/Surrogacy child rendering her stateless and “deleting her legal existence”. No phone call, no card, no baby clothes, no nothing, as if a little human being DOES NOT EXIST. Up until then, there were regular visits and inquiries for the same child, so why the sudden “disregard and disdain” for the same innocent child, was it pre-planned? First and foremost, they are a HUMAN BEING, then a child, then a daughter, then a little sister. Regardless of whatever the justifications that an individual or anyone supporting such justifications, as a loving parent, please do NOT tell me that a child DOES NOT COUNT. She counts and the UNHCR agrees as they have the “I, Belong” campaign to eradicate childhood statelessness regardless of how the child came about. The heinousness has to be stopped not just against a daughter but any child like her because its wrong. As an IVF/Surrogacy parent, we already have enough trauma dealing with infertility emotionally, financially, legally and to have a child be “unrecognized” and “dehumanized” when born after several failed IVF attempts puts into question what does our civilized world stand for? Time will tell if “savingagirlchild” was the right decision or should it cost me my other child and a sibling and cost us our hard-earned American DREAM lost in the fertility wars? I came to the US at 17 with $500 bucks and was forced to leave everything of over 21 years to save my immigrant IVF/Surrogacy born daughter in India for wanting to help infertility in the US. I have no regrets as my daughter is far more valuable and I would have done the same for my son. The question is have I lived with American values of family first, equality, respect for all even if laws fall short? I was 37, my most formidable years as an earning professional and achieve my American DREAM and implicitly my innocent child’s AMERICAN DREAM, our dreams lost due to the fertility wars. Where is the tolerance and respect for our diversity as IVF/Surrogacy family? I like to have fun as much as the next guy but do NOT question my love as a parent without understanding the facts because only thing more powerful than lies, demonization, vilification, fear-mongering, threats, intimidation, abuse is TRUTH. When I see the world from the perspective of my lovely daughter, an abandoned child and deliberately made stateless with no help from perpetrators despite multiple requests as if she does not exist, it is hard to understand what exactly do big words in our civilized world that empower us normally like “savegirlchild”, “joyofbirthofsibling”, “womanpower” mean? Instead I see a repeat of a failed strategy of “baby scoop era” being employed to justify taking away a child from a loving, biological family AND a brother from a sister and somehow everything is “fair” in fertility wars including an innocent child abandoned and made stateless. Other words like “childhood statelessness”, “lies”, “demonization”, “vilification”, “fear-mongering”, “separation” take over and do not allow hugs and kisses or build any memories between siblings and a loving family. Fighting for her rights has taught me a lot, especially the ugly underbelly of fertility wars where somehow its ok to rob from Peter to pay Paul and hurt innocent children. It’s not OK because she is first a human being and deserves human decency and respect.

Recently in India, Ms. Asha Devi spoke out about her innocent daughter who was raped ruthlessly in 2012 and announced her real name as Jyoti Singh declaring why should they be ashamed, it’s the perpetrators who carried out this heinous crime should be held accountable and responsible for their actions. She is absolutely right, why should my innocent daughter, Medhavi, deliberately made a refugee as a stateless child be silent as an abandoned child with no help from the US parent who put her in an “IVF prison” ruthlessly and heinously. In 1915, it may have been OK to silence a rape victim for “family honor” and worse plead with the rapist to marry the victim to both “shield family honor” and the notion how can a single woman who is a rape victim survive? In 2015, no one would dare suggest this but yet somehow its OK to suggest that a parent who abandoned an IVF/Surrogacy child, knowingly made them stateless and never provided any help despite repeated requests should be allowed to “connect” with the stateless child victim? It’s NOT OK. It would be revictimizing the victim for the same reasons a rapist does not “connect” with a rape victim. And the ignorance which existed in dealing with rape victims in 1915 is the same ignorance in dealing with international IVF/Surrogacy victims. There is a right way and a wrong way and abandoning an innocent child, making them stateless and extending no help is NOT the right way. In an increasingly globalized world, we are a better civilized world than that and a child is a child equally valuable to their loving parent regardless of their nationality and birth type. The only thing more traumatic than the dehumanization of an innocent child, separating from a child and the emotional, financial, legal torture and trauma is being re-traumatized and revictimized by the same perpetrators in the “name of law”.

Bullying one’s way to Parenthood

One cannot bully their way into parenthood and where was the “parent” when an innocent #BrownGirl needed their US parent to complete her legalization as an IVF/Surrogacy child born in India with consent from a US parent? After several failed IVF attempts, why would a “parent” leave a child and more importantly what are the rights of the child when this happens? Do they count as human at least? Much like the “same-sex” marriage debate, while “laws” defined “marriage” between two people based on “gender”, rest of humanity believed “marriage” is about “love” between two people. In the meantime, some same-sex partners had to lie about their love in fear of persecution and ridicule like some folks claiming to be able to medically “reverse” being gay. The same bigotry still exists in different ways where the “laws” and “societal stereotypes” today discriminate against love of a parent and child based on “gender”, “birth type”, “nationality” while rest of the humanity believes “parent-child” is about “love”. Meanwhile in 2015 for us loving parents, IVF/Surrogacy children are just children like any other child and perhaps someday the rest of the world will also see them at least as human beings if not equal. For rest of the world, Medhavi, may be a “stateless” and left-behind IVF/Surrogacy child and perhaps does not count despite the UN Refugee agency running a campaign to end childhood statelessness. She is my lovely daughter and I love her just as much as any other child. More than that, I like to talk about my daughter not out of arrogance but she is also my savior from a repeated cycle of secrecy, lies, abuse, torture, trauma, medical negligence, lack of laws from which I could NOT get out. She is what is “good” in this world like the love and compassion of donors and surrogates, family, friends and strangers who gather “like a village” to help raise a left-behind child, she is what happens when good people surround us with their humanity. She IS the future we hope to build.

Does Loving a Child based on gender, genetic link or just love?

Emotionally and legally there is a difference between adoption and IVF/Surrogacy. In adoption which is regulated, the genetic parent for whatever circumstances without passing judgment did give up the child. In IVF/Surrogacy which is unregulated, the fertile spouse shows compassion and wants to share a child with the infertile or dysfertile spouse AND very much WANTS the CHILD. It is one thing to have laws not caught up with technology like IVF/Surrogacy as cited in the US Department of State June 2011 report, it is completely another to use the gaps in the laws against an innocent child, they are still someone’s child just like the victims of Ariel Castro were also someone’s innocent children. This is against our American values and we do not approve this message. We must work together with the same compassion that the larger IVF/Surrogacy ecosystem including donors and surrogates represent in an ethical, moral and legal way which respects rights of ALL especially the innocent children. The gaps in the laws is setting up a dangerous and heinous situation of a medico-legal disability where innocent children are used against each other in the latest tools in fertility wars. The dark clouds of Machiavellian fertility politics take over sacrificing everything, not even sparing an innocent little sister, an equal human being in her own right. For those who doubt, walk a step in the shoes of an IVF/Surrogacy parent where the laws require ALL responsibilities of a “mother” from the genetic parent but NO rights that of a “mother”, traditionally the “primary care provider” which implicitly hurts innocent children with denial of rights. With changing times, if the intent is “best interest of the child”, the system needs to update itself when a divorce is filed to ask the question to both spouses, “Are you responsible for any child or any ongoing pregnancies?” instead of “Are you pregnant?” This is NOT to say the system is ignorant but rather to say that some malicious minded people are manipulating the system and in the process hurting innocent children and denying them rights. And regardless of nationality or birth type, ALL children are equal. It is one thing to discriminate against an IVF/Surrogacy parent due to their “genetic link” to the child OR their “citizenship status” or their “gender” but it also implicitly discriminates against an innocent child AND innocent siblings who are separated at birth.

Real World Vs. Bizarre World of Lies

My child is still a child and as a left-behind parent, the US government provides milk and diapers for the child and NOT the parent. I want the milk and diapers with interest for my left-behind American child. The point is to recognize her as a human being instead of dehumanizing her and children like her. In America, we respect our differently abled and provide ramps, where is the “ramp” for IVF/Surrogacy children like mine for their medico-legal disability and for building a family differently? Abu Ghraib was a terrible tragedy by a few bad apples and it does NOT reflect rest of Americans and our values but it still did occur and right answer is to acknowledge facts, hold the few bad apples responsible and accountable and move forward. The plight of stateless children born via international IVF/Surrogacy is real provided truth is allowed. In the real world, the Canadian couple did NOT abandon the IVF/Surrogacy child and did NOT split the siblings. The US-Israeli mother did NOT abandon the children and did NOT split the siblings. Instead in both cases they fought against the system for years to get a legal identity for their innocent IVF/Surrogacy children while keeping the siblings together. It is a real problem with real consequences because in the real world countries like Thailand, Nepal, India, Mexico have banned IVF/Surrogacy for foreigners due to few bad apples. The UN has launched a campaign to eradicate childhood statelessness. Others in the real world are confronting the issue and addressing the consequences in best interest of the child. But in the US, how come fling divorce in the US creates a stateless IVF/Surrogacy child in India? Do they have rights as a human? A person can lie, suppress facts and legally “delete” an innocent child from “legal existence” denying their rights and live freely in the US while the innocent child is stateless and stuck in “IVF prison” in India and separated from sibling, how is that fair to the child? If my child and others like her are “human”, the democratic governments need to prove it with action and not simply compassionate words OR they should live the life of a stateless child to understand the dehumanization they face so they can take action as responsible democratic governments that works for ALL equally. In democracy, “numbers matter” and for any parent, the child IS their world. Ask this of any billions of parents around the world. Whether its a poor mom, a single mom, a parent of a Down’s syndrome or Autism child, an IVF/Surrogacy parent of a stateless child – we all want the same thing – respect for our innocent child. But somehow respecting a child depends on who is asking and not based on the needs of the child.

Coming To America for Justice for IVF Children

Little over 25 years ago, like many immigrants at the time and millions more before us over the centuries came to America – the promised land of truth, liberty and justiceBornFreeJustice-IVF It was an exciting time, on the fun side, movies like “Coming to America” was released which captured the American spirit of hard work and respect for all. On a more serious note, in 2015, it is again a very exciting time to “Coming to America” as an international IVF/Surrogacy children and family to get justice we deserve. Freedom to roam free and opportunity to be united as intended as a family. It is important to go through the process of justice because only then it can be fully understood the torture, trauma, abuse, injustice, horror of what we went through and this should NEVER occur again. If there is a country, a system not afraid of the truth, then it is America who can give us the basic human dignity and respect as human beings. It is this faith and hope in America where everyone is equal is what gives us the strength and courage to say the truth.

In the words of Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. – “A threat to justice anywhere is a threat to justice everywhere” and “Justice delayed is justice denied“. Our prayers are to let truth prevail and do what’s in the best interest of the innocent children.

On the positive side, if anyone looks at our case honestly and hollistically, more has been done for human rights where laws and governments fall short. If an intersex, immigrant, IVF parent helps by respecting human rights of people where laws and government itself fall short, who protects their rights? Or is it a crime to show compassion? Why is it the burden of innocent IVF/Surrogacy children and parent to give rights to intersex, immigrant, infertile where laws itself fall short? Isn’t that what governments and laws do? We tried and ended up splitting our world apart, it is obvious it is NOT the job of individuals. Are innocent IVF/Surrogacy children and their parents human beings too equally deserving of basic human dignity and respect?

There is no doubt that intersex marriage, immigration, legal third gender, equal rights for IVF/Surrogacy children and families will be legal someday (1,5,10,20,50 years?) which is what we have already been through in secrecy and lies but even then abandoning a child (natural born or IVF/Surrogacy born) will remain a crime. Because that’s the America I know and love. Once a child is born, regardless of their birth type, they are equal and should be deserving of justice. Ironically, good-minded people, government officials, system, etc. say things which are offensive and is a downright discrimination based on birth type but because of the “newness” don’t realize their inadvertent offensive words and/or actions. It simply shows there is a lot more work to do to educate and spread awareness and build tolerance for IVF/Surrogacy children and families. Is building families through IVF/Surrogacy a crime? Or is it so heinous that families should be forced to be split up? Or is that the laws have not caught up with technology?

America is a great land where once the social conscience is awakened, it takes action rather than persecuting the messenger. From slavery to women suffrage to civil rights to gay rights, we have great historical lessons of justice, is it time for equal rights for IVF/Surrogacy children and families? We are coming to America for justice and freedom – something alienated and stolen from innocent IVF/Surrogacy siblings. This is a dream of an IVF parent to unite his innocent children but he is also an American and Americans don’t leave one of their own behind and nor do they ever stop fighting for truth and justice. Together we move ahead.

It’s a new dawn, 2015 is a new year. Is the world ready to embrace the ground realities and the lack of laws for international IVF/Surrogacy children and families? The only way forward is ahead and together. We need honesty and inclusiveness in solving complex international IVF/Surrogacy child rights and human rights issues; secrecy, lies, circumventing laws are not healthy nor are they in the best interest of the child.

IVF Legal Limbo and its Effects

Its Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. Day and his words to inspire people to always fight for what’s right cannot ring more true than for innocent IVF children and families in 2015. Is it time to have equal rights for IVF children and families? Imagine coming to the US as an immigrant, you work hard, pay taxes but you love a person who happens to be infertile and is intersex. Love knows no Martin-Luther-King-Do-Whats-Right-IVF-Limboboundaries but LAWS discriminate against IVF, infertile and intersex families, so who wins – LOVE, LAWS, LIES or innocent IVF siblings?  Welcome to an American life of an intersex, immigrant, IVF family – respect and equality and above all sparing innocent children and siblings. It’s not just about the material comforts but its about truth and justice – something an American dream promises?

You live together, you eat together, you sleep together, you may have even expressed your love for each other publicly and pray no hate crimes occur just for being you, but one is constantly living in legal limbo as an intersex, immigrant, IVF family. Movement outside the US is restricted. Freedom is lost. Depending on situation, one has to hide their identity of being in a same-sex marriage because before 2013, its illegal. For most, its a non-issue but for the ones living through it is a constant legal limbo. And why does one have to lie simply for loving someone?

There is another kind of legal limbo. The legal limbo of being born an international IVF/surrogacy child. If you are born on US soil, you are automatically a US citizen but if your parents brought you into this world by using their genetic material and with help of an International donor and/or surrogate, some cases are wrought with legal limbo for the innocent IVF child, whats their fault? For example, if you have a DNA mismatch, where the genetic material, sperm or egg is accidentally mixed in the IVF clinic abroad, the IVF child would have no “genetic link” with the US citizen parent as required by laws and thus as per Immigration laws cannot enter the country and is in legal limbo. Had the same child been born on US shores exactly same way, there would be no issues. Or if a mother uses donor egg and sperm and uses her own womb to give birth to IVF child, since she has no “genetic link” as defined by laws, the innocent IVF child is in legal limbo. Had the same child been born on US shores exactly same way, there would be no issues. There are several such circumstances which can place an innocent IVF child in legal limbo, some accidentally while others deliberately. As an aggrieved victim, your movement is restricted. Your freedom is lost.

Just like every technology, it can be used for good or bad, just like every other crime, it only takes a few bad apples to ruin it for all – more importantly, the necessity for having laws to provide checks and balance.

When someone abandons an international IVF/surrogacy child knowingly and leaving the innocent child in legal limbo, who protects their rights? Do they have any rights?

When an international IVF/surrogacy child is abandoned during a divorce, what are their rights? If same child was born on shore during a divorce, would they have different rights as child of “marriage”? More importantly, has the best interest of the child been maintained?

Infertility has existed since time immemorial. People have tried different ways to help others to solve infertility. Adoption is most common and there are very stringent and well-thought laws for adoption – both domestically and internationally. IVF/Surrogacy is relatively new, more importantly, laws are lacking and haven’t caught up with technology leaving innocent children in legal limbo. What checks and balance are democracies providing for best interest of IVF/international children?

5 or 10 or 20 years from now or whenever international laws are in place for IVF/surrogacy children, helping infertility may not be a crime (like it is today in some cases) but abandoning innocent children will still be a crime. Perhaps due to the laws then, innocent children may not even be in legal limbo but what is being done today to help the affected? Who is protecting rights of innocent children? Who is helping innocent IVF siblings to be united who are deliberately split between two continents? When will justice arrive?

In the here and now, it is painfully obvious that helping infertility where laws itself fall short is wrong but to have injustice inflicted on innocent, voiceless children is something one never imagined even in their worst nightmares. Some of the issues are getting resolved for international IVF children and families. When will an international IVF family of an IVF father and his IVF children get justice?

We need a system of inclusiveness, rights of both fertile and infertile are protected but children must come first. Perhaps if equal rights existed for infertile, they may not feel threatened to abandon a child just to get custody of their sibling because they must have a child at any and all costs. Perhaps if deterrents existed to hold fertile and infertile intended parents equally responsible and accountable for the welfare of a child, a maligned adult may not be able to abandon a child and leave them in legal limbo without any consequences. Most importantly, an innocent, voiceless IVF child best interest would be protected and justice be served.

Past, Present, Future for Intersex, Immigrant, IVF Families

Living in the past is unhelpful but we all are a sum aggregate of our experiences which is including the past. Living for today is one thing we can be certain of and gandhi-father day-truthallows us an opportunity to make a difference. Living for tomorrow is helpful to set goals and is needed as we think about future generations, especially our children and grandchildren. Feeling threatened by laws (or lack thereof) is one thing but to take it out on innocent children is another. Respect all including innocent, voiceless children is the right way forward just like respecting innocent intersex children or innocent IVF children “born out of wedlock”. Let us not create a whole new generation of children under secrecy and lies because we have seen the effects of it as evidenced by SPLIT innocent IVF siblings. Lies and secrecy helps no one, perhaps honesty and compassion has a shot? We have a choice – to be in the PAST (continue to live in silence while creating more victims) or live for the FUTURE (to UNITE and petition the respective authorities for change and updation of laws). The choice we make TODAY is our PRESENT– depending on what action we take. We support efforts to help infertility but do they have to come at the cost of rights of others including innocent IVF siblings, can’t we find better ways?

This is the approach taken when dealing with intersex rights and IVF rights. Neither the past nor the present offer equal rights for intersex or IVF families. Maybe the future will? Will it happen automatically or will people have to speak up? If equal rights existed for intersex or IVF families, perhaps innocent children “born out of wedlock” of an intersex, immigrant, IVF family would not be split up as no one would feel threatened by the anti-intersex and anti-IVF laws.

It is one thing to say to a intersex, immigrant, IVF survivor to stop living in the past without taking the time to understand the crux of the issues which is lack of equal rights. And silence the survivor will not achieve goals; petitioning, education, awareness will. We tried the silence and compassion approach and has helped no one – especially the innocent siblings who have been willfully split up.

Am pretty sure even the intersex, immigrant, infertile person who masterminded this situation doesn’t feel comfortable knowing that others like them who are intersexed, immigrant, infertile legally still cannot achieve what they have. And we hope that everyone joins us in the fight to get equal rights for intersex and IVF rights. That is the right answer. Living in silence or under threats is certainly not the right answer as is evidenced by the split innocent siblings being punished for crimes they did not commit. The past, present, and future is how do we reconcile the situation for innocent children? And if we are unable to, what answers do we provide them? That breaking laws is right to get what you want and showing compassion where laws itself fall short is evil?

Protecting women from getting raped is about changing mindsets and is a collective responsibility. Instead of using a “blame the victim” approach, the question to ask is what can each one of us do to stop this ghastly crime from occurring in the first place? Protecting against racism is also about changing mindsets and is a collective responsibility as evidenced by recent protests across US. Instead of using a “blame the victim” approach, the question to ask is what have you done to stand up against racism? Protecting IVF child from an IVFphile is about changing mindsets and is a collective responsibility. IVF exists to help infertility but do innocent, voiceless children deserve rights too? Instead of using a “blame the victim” approach against the IVF parent and his IVF children “born out of wedlock”, the question to ask is what have you done to help infertility?

Heard a story about how one woman was being given the cat calls, harassed, eave teasing and so on. It had happened several times before. But that day, she decided to take action and enough is enough, she turned around and slapped the man.

Should she have done this the first time it happened to her? Did the same man also harass her previously or was it the first time by this specific person but she had been a victim of lewd approaches several times before by others? Now that she has slapped him, will this treacherous activity stop for the lady meaning will she not get teased, not get those looks? Sadly, no. She feels confident as a person to speak up, take a stand, and if no one else will, she did something rather than continuing to suffer in silence. Why did she decide to speak up now? Because enough is enough.

When an immigrant, IVF father and his IVF children “born out of wedlock” are split after years of silent suffering and abuse, its the straw that breaks the camel’s back. Is it the first time an IVF family has been discriminated? Now that an IVF parent has decided to speak up, does it mean equal IVF rights for both fertile and infertile people will become a reality? Does it mean the innocent, voiceless siblings will be UNITED? When is/How much “enough” is enough?

IVF Discrimination – Is it Real or a Myth? Do IVF Lives Matter?

I respect diversity, I respect women starting with my abandoned IVF daughter and the compassionate donor and surrogate among other women.

Have you ever experienced discrimination? Is it real or is it a myth? Depending on how you dissect it, at some point everyone can be discriminated, one way or theIVF-Lives-Matter other based on gender, age, race, sexual orientation, or birth type? Like everything else, the trajectory followed is first of DENIAL, then acceptance, then solutions. Sometimes this entire process can take a few years to a few decades or centuries or ever. But does that mean discrimination does not exist?  When authorities (who are also people) use their personal prejudices (good or bad) to evaluate a situation, does that mean there is no discrimination? The most important question is while it takes time for society to “accept” and then have a “solution”, what happens to the victims, especially innocent children? What relief do they get and how? How does one reconcile?

Recently, there has been a spate of protests in the US in cases where young African American men have been killed by police. There have been various responses including the US President Obama calling for cameras to provide better accountability. There have been widespread protests across the country by Americans wanting equal rights and justice. At the very least, the right to live. People – black, white, brown, men, women, children, anyone who cares is taking action and wants this to stop. Parents are having conversations with their children and there is a difference between how a black parent talks to their black child Vs. white parent to a white child. The black family wants the child to just diffuse the situation and walk away while a white parent tells their child that not everyone is treated the same way as they are. You see, parents have to be realistic with their children because they love and care about them. Political correctness, reality Vs. myth, truth Vs. lies, etc all seem miniscule when compared to their safety. That doesn’t mean a parent is teaching their child prejudice or hate, it just means a parent is teaching their child to be safe and be real.

With this context, what is the state of the union for international, immigrant, IVF fathers and his children? If a person has a child outside the US via IVF/Surrogacy then US immigration laws go into effect. If an IVF father uses his biological sperm and has an IVF child with help of a compassionate egg donor and surrogate outside the US, the laws consider the IVF child as “born out of wedlock”. This has severe implications on the welfare of the child as US Family Court laws are in direct contradiction. This also means that if a compassionate male wants to stay in an infertile marriage and have a child, legally the child is “born out of wedlock”. US laws require a “genetic link” between a US Citizen parent and an IVF child born outside the US in order for the child to get a US Passport meaning how does an infertile person (genetic link not possible) legally bring an IVF child outside the US? US has made some progress in the world of IVF/Surrogacy but has some more steps to take. If Holocaust survivors deserve compensation for what they went through, what do survivors of an IVF Holocaust deserve?

DateWhat?
January 2014US Secretary of State John Kerry passed a directive which would treat US Citizen mothers who gave birth to IVF children abroad same rights as "genetic mothers" AND made it retroactive. This means if a US Citizen mother gave birth to an IVF child using a sperm donor and egg donor, before this she was NOT considered the mother for US Immigration purposes and thus denying the innocent IVF children their rights. Good step forward to sync up social reality with legal reality.
November 2014US President Obama allowed US Citizen IVF children born abroad to sponsor their foreign surrogates for US Immigration - again good step forward. But what if there were fraud documents where the entire IVF/Surrogacy was kept secret, does the IVF child and the surrogate have their rights denied?
??Immigrant, IVF father and his innocent IVF children "born out of wedlock" are treated same and equally. Worse, what if the "loopholes in the laws" are exploited by someone with intimate knowledge of laws to willfully abandon a child and SPLIT innocent siblings?
??Any intended parent in US who gives consent to having an IVF/Surrogacy child abroad MUST be held accountable and responsible in the best interest of the child if they abandon the child. After all, all children are created EQUAL and the laws should also treat them EQUAL. At the very least, it will serve as a deterrent for people who want to manipulate the system
??Equal IVF laws inclusive of both fertile and infertile people meaning if US laws require a "genetic link" between US parent and IVF child born abroad then don't infertile people feel threatened by the laws? Would it be a motivation to demonize, falsely accuse, and abandon one IVF sibling abroad with NO consequences while splitting the other IVF sibling in the US and not allowing him to see his biological sibling and family? Can't we as a society offer better solutions which are more inclusive?
  1. When will equal rights and justice for IVF children born of IVF fathers arrive? Why is there NO progress on this front? Why is an IVF father forbidden from saying the truth?
  2. Instead of helping the IVF family and his IVF children “born out of wedlock” be united, why is he being demonized?
  3. Perhaps if the laws made all parties equally responsible and accountable meaning if a US person gives consent to having an IVF child abroad and later changes their mind, it is a crime EQUAL to abandoning a child because you know all children are EQUAL. If nothing else this law would provide a checks and balance and serve as a deterrent for an infertile person to NOT split innocent IVF siblings and the IVF family of an IVF father and his IVF children “born out of wedlock”.
  4. Of course, the bigger picture is if the laws allowed infertile people to bring an IVF child born outside the US legally, then the infertile people would not feel threatened by the laws. Instead of helping an IVF father who is being responsible and accountable for his IVF children “born out of wedlock” by being by their side when they needed him the most as a primary care provider, he and implicitly his children are being demonized.
  5. The approach is NOT new, a century ago or less or even now, rape survivors had to undergo a “blame the victim” approach where they are first shunned, denied and if that does not work, false allegations of character assassinations are used, and if that does not work, they are forced to repeat the traumatic experience several times before getting any justice. Thankfully, today there are rape crisis centers, there are laws that protect survivors and provide swift justice and they have the support – emotional, legal, financial, etc. to get justice and move on. Sadly, rape still occurs but at least the survivor has a way forward. Why don’t we have IVF crisis trauma centers? After all, is a person who helps others where laws itself fall short, runs by the side of his IVF son when needed, runs to his abandoned IVF daughter a DEMON or a normal human being who  happens to be a loving parent but just the wrong gender, race and immigration status?
  6. Are IVF fathers who have respected rights of others also deserving of having their rights protected? Or should they be villified, demonized, falsely accused and worse their innocent IVF siblings be forced to grow up apart simply because the laws for infertility have not caught up? Why should innocent children be casualties of the war on fertility? When laws itself fall short, what possibly MORE could a spouse of intersex have done? He suffered and was abused in silence, he sacrificed a lot in silence, but why should his innocent IVF children “born out of wedlock” also sacrifices and suffer the abuse of secrecy and lies? As a parent, much like the black and white families of the US having a “talk” with their children, an IVF parent just wants truth and freedom for his children.

Happy Thanksgiving 2014

I am very thankful for having healthy and loving children – two through IVF and one naturally. Sadly, as a loving parent in 2014, one is still forced to pay it forward living 22nd centurydifferentiate between their children based on “birth type” not by choice but because thats how the laws view them. Ideally, a child is a child with no “adjectives”. We are thankful for thriving democracies like India and the US where petitioning the government for change peacefully is not met with intimidation, threats but rather free speech is respected. As an intersex, immigrant, IVF father in 2000s and with no IVF trauma crisis centers, it takes a while to pick up the pieces but one is thankful and hopeful for the world ahead. I am very thankful for the love and support of family who have literally provided a second birth both for me and my abandoned child. Another year, another year of being divided.

I am not anti-intersex or anti-infertility or anti-IVF or anti-immigrants, I just happen to be pro-truth. Just look at the body of work based on actions and not lies that people including the system wants to propagandize. As someone who stood at the edge of the war on intersex rights, at the edge of war on fertility and having amazingly survived one cannot let that voice be silenced. Non-genetic  parents deserve compassion and rights but they also have responsibility and accountability. Unless the laws are there to protect innocent children, this vicious cycle of secrecy, lies, fraud, breaking laws, etc. will continue and create more innocent victims.  One would have to take time and traverse 10 years it took for them to arrive into this wonderful world only to be willfully SPLIT. Rather than celebrating them, one is more engaged in “owning” them, rather than freeing them, one is more engaged in “restricting” them, rather than being THANKFUL for their existence, one is more engaged in “lying and disrespecting” them. There are lot better ways to help infertile people in this world than SPLITTING innocent IVF siblings – people (yes, they are human too with emotions!). For the rest of the world, it may just be “some children”, for us, they are our world.

The fundamental problem is that even in 2014, an intersex, infertile, immigrant cannot have a child legally. So what are they supposed to do? Lie, force others to lie, create fraud documents, split innocent children from their loving family, split siblings, placing innocent children in legal limbo, and on and on and on? The right answer is to stop this cycle of secrecy and lies and have equal rights including innocent IVF children and families. If equal intersex rights and equal fertility rights existed, my innocent children, SIBLINGS, would NOT have been split and uniting them is a lifelong dream and goal like any other parent’s.

Do “infertile” people exist or are the laws ignoring their needs? And if there should be laws for “infertile” people, should there also be laws for “dysfertile” people? More importantly, should laws provide an environment which fosters truth or is the lack of laws promoting an environment of secrecy, lies, fraud, false allegations? More importantly, how are the lies and breaking laws in “best interest of the child”?

The question is NOT whether a child being raised by a non-genetic parent is happy? The question is can he be happier? The question is what are his rights to be allowed to be grow up with a sibling he wanted? The question is what are his rights to grow up with his primary care provider? The question is why is he being DENIED what so many other children take for granted? Is he also a victim of the lack of laws for fertility just like his sibling and his loving biological parent? The answer to this question does not lie with some “expert” or a misguided system which later “apologizes” like they did for the baby scoop era, the answer lies with someone who has gone through it like Ms. Carlina White. The “need to know” is innate to any human, same reason why we innovate and the same reason we seek truth – nothing to do with intersex, or IVF, or immigration. When governments are stubborn with laws, innocent human beings suffer like slavery, women suffrage, civil rights, gay rights, etc. And it takes individuals to be “stubborn” and hold their ground peacefully and petition the government for change. When will we see IVF rights so people don’t have to resort to lying, cheating, frauding, breaking laws? 

A fertile parent has already proven he is willing to SHARE his child with an infertile parent, now the ball is in their court, is an infertile parent willing to SHARE a child? Or will there be more LYING…we tried that and the result is innocent siblings being SPLIT, how will more lying resolve anything?

No one is claiming that life of an intersex, immigrant, infertile person is not traumatic – while others including experts can only give academic answers, a person who has lived the trauma alongside and be there every step of the way and survived knows this. But are there other victims too? Every murderer or rapist is also a son or daughter of someone, is also a brother or sister of someone, is also a spouse of someone. We have people who are “drive-by” experts and miss the devils in the details. They look at the “stereotypical” lens of only a man can be a perpetrator of domestic violence and abuse. Can he and his children also be victims? More importantly, when innocent children are victims of abuse, can they only get justice if the abuse was perpetrated by the “father”?

If there was no abuse on the spouse, then why after 10 years of forced silence and abuse, the survivor feels more closer and relevant to victims of Castro and Fritzl, feels more relevant to the biological parents who were taken away from their children during the baby scoop era, to the rape victims who are encouraged to “hush up” and “forget” instead of speaking up and reporting the crimes? To say to a survivor that they are “equal criminals” because they did not speak up during the phases of the crime is a “blame the victim” approach and like telling a rape survivor that they “enjoyed the rape”. NO ONE enjoys being raped. It’s a crime. It has taken decades if not centuries for women to get the strength and courage to speak up against the horrific crimes against them and for governments to pass laws and protect them. How long will it take for male survivors and their children to get laws and be protected? Step 1 is just allowed to be heard and perhaps in the next generation, we may have hope for laws.

I often hear statements like, “there is no respect for women”, or “there has to be gender equality”, or “equal pay for equal work”. I would like to add one more to this list, “there is NO respect for fertile partners and their children”. Splitting innocent children is a very unique way to show RESPECT.

Lying to a child is the “biggest child abuse” despite what the “experts” say. We should be listening to childhood trauma victims of lying like Ms. Carlina White and not “experts” and “system” who were ill-prepared to care for likes of Mr. Adam Lanza. The right answer is to have a “cross-functional” learning exercise with an open mind. And the point is “experts” are wrong and so is the system and pointing out facts should be taken as constructive criticism to build a better system. The system is NOT PERFECT, if it were there would be NO exonerations. To point this out is NOT disrespect but to show that a slice of the population is underserved and deserves equal rights and protection too. The important question is when a system has been manipulated, what message will the system send to not allow this to be repeated?

I have learnt that truth is maleable and it is not about the “best interest of the child”. If it were, the innocent IVF siblings would be united.

I have learnt that GIVING life is a crime. It’s not a message to raise children with but one should GIVE life with no fraud documents and without breaking laws and should ensure the rights of all lives are protected even if born illegally.

I have learnt that compassion is evil and innocent siblings should be punished for it but that’s not a message to raise children with. Compassion is right but takes time to come to fruition, what is wrong are the laws against IVF children and families and people who break laws for personal benefit.

I have learnt that helping a criminal even if forced under threats is also a crime. Then why are innocent IVF siblings being punished for crimes they did not commit?

If accepting lies and breaking laws for an intersex, immigrant, infertile under the name of “compassion” then where is the compassion for an abandoned IVF child and SPLIT innocent siblings and alienated child?

This story has been said before – government under the guise of “laws” taking away rights of people and unleashing indescribable injustice which would be considered anything but barbaric today. Slavery was legal but still wrong and barbaric, same for women suffrage rights, same for civil rights, same for apartheid, same for imperialism, colonization, same for gay rights, same for baby scoop era, same for transgender rights, and same for IVF rights.

I have no doubt when the facts of the case are evaluated with historical context, splitting innocent IVF siblings and punishing them for crimes they did not commit WILL NEVER be the right answer. Having laws so that their rights are protected ALSO will be the right answer.

Of course, if the siblings were UNITED, I may have held my silence for life like I was forced to during my ten years. It is one thing to take abuse as an individual but to have it extended to your children, any parent would speak up. And saying the truth is not breaking any laws at least not in a democracy we hope.

Wish I were Gay for my IVF Children’s Sake As Dictated by Laws

There are stories about how gay parents are coping in the 21st century – fighting for “maternity” leave as the primary care provider OR to have equal parental rights OR Nazi Intersex IVF Historyallowed to tell the truth to their child OR so many other battles they have to fight just to be allowed to LOVE their child FREELY. Is the same true for an intersex, immigrant, IVF father and his IVF children? An IVF father who is not gay is on “maternal leave” for 5 years and counting because he did not want to abandon his child.

There is NOT a day that goes by when one does not DREAM of an innocent IVF brother walking through the front door to hug his primary care provider, his father, and his siblings not because the rights of an intersex, immigrant, IVF father matter BUT because an innocent, IVF child has rights too and its his DREAM too. Are innocent IVF siblings, innocent IVF fathers allowed to have DREAMS OR are they reserved only for infertile, immigrants who must have a child at any and all costs including abandoning an innocent child? The issue is not about intersex, infertility, IVF, the issue is do innocent siblings deserve to grow up together and do the voiceless have rights? As the recent story about Mr. Lanza shows that “wishful thinking” is not the answer but dealing with facts and respect for laws is the right answer.  The weapon doesn’t always have to be a “gun”, it can also be false records, fraud, lies, breaking the laws with equally devastating effect on innocent children and victims.

While people are still debating whether being gay is right or wrong, gay parents having and raising children is right or wrong, at least their issues are on the radar and are getting solutions, especially from the legal perspective. An intersex, immigrant, IVF father and his IVF children are LOST and written off. An intersex, IVF father may NOT be gay but from a legal perspective is treated as a “GAY man”.  In a gay relationship, who is the “mother”? More importantly, who does the child have an infinite, loving BOND with – the primary care provider or the “mother” or “father”?The child goes to the person whose love they can feel due to the qualitative time they spend together and NOT because the person is “mother” or “father”, “gay” or “straight”, or whatever other “social discrimination”. Wish I were gay then at least the issues we are facing about parental rights, IVF rights, immigrant rights of same-sex folks, dysfertility rights would be discussed in the OPEN rather than SUPPRESSED under the carpet, ironically enough as gay rights have been dealt with for several decades.

The only thing WORSE than denying justice to a person – black or white, gay or straight, man or woman, adult or child, or [insert] whatever other “social discrimination” here is to DISRESPECT their issues which is DENYING rights. Just like some people believe the Holocaust never happened, how can you even discuss with them the horrific and traumatic events that occurred during the Holocaust because as per them “it never happened”?

The reasons why it is important to discuss Abu Ghraib is the same reasons why it is important to discuss an intersex, immigrant, IVF father and his IVF children. It is not “anti-national”, it is to first give justice to innocent victims and second to learn and ensure it is never repeated. Having two split innocent IVF siblings on two different continents in legal limbo is nothing short of our “Abu Ghraib” because it has been done willfully and is a crime against their humanity even though they may be young and voiceless. It is very traumatic for an intersex person in 2000s but at least they have support if they are honest, what about spouse and children of an intersex marriage who are forced into silence and abused and traumatized? Appeasement even by parents and professionals/experts as the Adam Lanza case shows is NOT the answer, confronting facts and discussing them openly will lead to a better solution for all including innocent children. Lying on medical records which denies rights of others and abuses others is a crime. Ignoring the blatant facts is wrong. Breaking laws is wrong. Intersex people have struggled for decades if not centuries to get recognized and have equal rights, how long will it be before spouse and IVF children of intersex marriage are provided appropriate support?

If the US recovers its citizens who go to foreign countries and may “break the laws” there like trying to do good in North Korea. What help and support does the US provide its citizens who try to help infertile people where laws itself fall short? Who protects their rights and should they be “recovered” and be united as a family?

Separating biological families even under a “legal guise” is not new, ask anyone who knows about the “baby scoop era”. Decades later, there are apologies from the government, “truth and reconciliation” commissions.

The laws have already spoken, an intersex spouse should have reported the crime and NOT shown compassion, the fertile spouse should NOT have accepted the fraud documents from an infertile family and NOT shown compassion, he should have also NOT shown compassion to an intersex, immigrant, infertile person just like he laws dictate. But why are we (and the laws) punishing innocent IVF siblings for crimes they did not commit? Showing compassion to an intersex, immigrant, infertile person is NOT wrong but supporting a LIAR and CRIMINAL is wrong. In fact it is so wrong that one has two innocent IVF siblings SPLIT willfully on two continents in legal limbo and with no justice.

Eye for an Eye, Child for a Child – IVF Terrorism

Eye for an eye will make the whole world go blind is what Mahatma Gandhi said.  An act of child for a child is an act of IVF terrorism. What is abandoning an inneye-for-an-eye-ivfocent, voiceless child while splitting them from their sibling because of threat of laws against infertility? IVF itself is controversial. It is a fact laws have not caught up with technology. Does that mean innocent should be punished? Does that mean voiceless children should be punished? Does that mean IVF siblings should have NO rights and be stranded in legal limbo? Are innocent IVF children a “commodity” or a human being? When will this IVF terrorism end?

Infertility is not wrong, being intersex is not wrong, being a genetic male who looks like a woman is not wrong, having and building families through IVF is not wrong, what is wrong is breaking laws, secrecy, lies, fraud and worse treating innocent, voiceless children as “commodity”. Crimes that place innocent, voiceless children in legal limbo and endanger their welfare is a crime against their humanity. Its a crime against the humanity of the compassionate fellow human beings who wanted to help the infertile human being. The sperm, the egg, the womb is all “borrowed”, so should the child also be used as a “commodity”? Being a donor or surrogate is NOT wrong but treating them as a commodity is wrong. Is stealing candy from a child make you a “winner” or a “loser”? The question is not whether an adult can steal candy from a child – thats doable, the question is what does the child deserve?

If an intersex, immigrant, infertile adult does not have rights, does that mean they have the right to take rights away from innocent IVF children? Is abandoning a child to take away their sibling a crime against the siblings? Is denying due process to innocent children a crime? Is denying rights to an innocent a crime? If intersex cannot legally marry, if intersex are infertile and cannot have a child biologically, if the laws require a genetic link between a US parent and child born outside the US meaning an infertile parent can NEVER bring a child to the US legally, should innocent siblings be SACRIFICED? Should innocent lives be “commodified”? This is new territory with IVF and lack of laws but does that mean we as a humanity sit back as an adult completely ridicules the basic dignity of a human being – an innocent child?

Mahatma Gandhi had it right, an eye for an eye will make the whole world go blind and what is having a child by abandoning another child called? What good can come out of this IVF terrorism? IVF offers this unique possibility where a parent can exercise “parental rights” choosingly. How is that the best interest of the child? What does the voiceless, innocent child deserve? If a “non-genetic” parent deserves to have equal rights to an IVF child, should the “non-genetic” parent ALSO be held equally responsible and accountable for the welfare of an IVF child they consented to? Or is helping infertile people a crime so heinous that your innocent IVF child should also be punished for it? It is time to change the laws and ensure that rights of any child, even “IVF” child are protected from criminals.

As Gandhiji aptly said, “Become the change you want to see in this world.” And the change we want is equal rights for IVF children and families.